Guess what Devin said today when he got home from work and saw that I was still in the middle of making dinner and that 2 of our 3 kids were crying and that the toy room was a mess and that I was pretty much completely frazzled...
He said, "What can I do to help?"
Did you guess that? 10 points if you did. He got about 100 points for saying it.
Yeah, he is amazing. It was so wonderful that he offered to help instead of criticizing for dinner not being done or anything else he might mention.
There have been a few instances when he walked in and the first words he said to me were something like, "Why does the house smell weird?" or, "Did you make sure the cereal was on sale before you bought it?" or, my favorite, "What did you do all day?" (Men, take note: that last one is seriously the worst thing a man can say when he gets home to his wife and house full of kids.)
It is unbelievable the difference it makes when the first words he speaks are kind.